Thinking Christianly about Marriage

By Mike Miller

The issue of “same-sex marriage” is an extremely hot topic today, and many Christians are struggling with how to think and respond biblically. On the one hand, this issue is a simple one for the Christian. The Bible is clear that homosexual behavior is sinful and deviant. It is also clear that by definition, marriage is the lifelong union between a man and a woman (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:4-6). According to the biblical framework, then, “same-sex marriage” is a nonsensical term. There can be no such thing.

On the other hand, even for the Christian, the issue is complex. I say it is complex because of the questions raised about legal rights and protections. Should people who love each other not be afforded the same legal status as others simply because of their sexual preferences? As Christians, shouldn’t we value people even if we don’t approve of their lifestyles? Therefore, while it might be easy for us to define marriage and develop a biblical position, what are we to think about public policy?

“Same-sex marriage” advocates believe that homosexuals are facing discrimination because they do not have the same right to marry that heterosexuals have. That is false. If marriage is a union between a man and a woman, homosexuals have the same right as anyone to enter into that union with someone of the opposite sex. They are being denied nothing. This is why they ultimately want to redefine marriage to be inclusive of their sexual preferences. They want to have the same kind of legal union, and they want to call it marriage. So, what’s wrong with that? Several things.

First, to allow homosexuals to “marry” one another strips marriage of one of its most fundamental purposes–procreation. To redefine marriage to allow for same-sex unions would be to deny the significance of having and raising children. Even if God is removed from the equation, nature has settled this issue for us. Two men or two women cannot make babies. Why is this important? This is what sets marriage apart from any other relationship. Marriage is more than just two people who love each other. Marriage is a special kind of relationship that results in the creation and development of the next generation. Homosexual unions can never fulfill this role.

Second, even though homosexuals can adopt or use other means such as surrogacy or in vitro fertilization, they do not provide the balanced family structure that is only found in marriage. Their children will be raised either with two female parents or two male parents, thus failing to provide the complementarian role models afforded by a mommy and a daddy. While many parents are bad parents (and this isn’t only true of heterosexuals), the data clearly shows that the healthiest home is one that has both mother and father present, married, and actively involved in the lives of their children.

Third, if marriage is to be redefined simply based on a committed relationship between any two people who love each other, and if procreation is not a factor, then should it also include siblings or best friends? And if it’s based on sexual preference alone, should relationships with multiple partners be included? What about people with weird fetishes who have romantic feelings toward their pets or inanimate objects?

Simply (and not just from a biblical point of view), if the definition of marriage is based solely on emotional bonds with or without a sexual component, and if procreation is not an essential element, then what makes it a special relationship? Eventually, any group of people with any kind of affections would be able to make the same case for their particular segment of the population. Then those people would also want the same rights (property, custody, hospital visitation, etc.) as those in monogamous heterosexual marriages. But if marriage is defined traditionally, then it is a unique social bond and the foundation of family and society. Such a union should therefore entitle its participants to certain unique rights and privileges.

I’m sure some will disagree with me, but I see the only tenable Christian view as the one that upholds the sanctity of marriage as demanded by both Scripture and nature. A danger we now face as Christians, however, is the spirit with which we participate in this discussion. Let’s be sure to make our case rationally and respectfully as we treat one another as highly valued individuals created in the image of God. Emotions tend to flare on this issue, but we need to be careful to honor Christ in all our dealings with others (2 Timothy 2:23-26; 1 Peter 3:15-16).

The Bible on TV

I like movies. I also like to read. I especially like movies based on books I’ve read, and I’ve seen some really good ones in recent years, such as The Bourne Identity (and its sequels), The Hunger Games, and Jack Reacher. Good books. Good movies. There is one thing these all have in common, however: I always like the book better. As a rule, books are better than movies. It is impossible to put on the screen directly and comprehensively what is on the written page. Books are just better. And when it comes to the new miniseries, The Bible, the same is true. The book is much, much better.

Having said that, I’m enjoying watching the TV production so far. Of course, the writers and producers have employed much dramatic and artistic license. But thats to be expected, and that in itself is not something about which I get bent out of shape (in fact, I really liked the ninja-like angels). We didn’t complain about Cecil B. deMille’s 10 Commandments, which many Christians rightly see as a classic. Even Mel Gibson’s The Passion of the Christ, which had word for word dialogue, added things visually that were not recorded in Scripture. Think about it like this. If you were explaining part of the Bible, you might not just read directly from the Bible. You would tell the story I. Your own words. This is also what happens in a sermon or Bible Study. The Bible is read, then the preacher or teacher uses illustrations and explanation to get point across.

Also, much of the Bible is left out of the TV show. That is necessary if the producers want to tell the entire story in 10 hours. After all, the Bible is a very long book covering about 4,000 years of history. 10 hours just isn’t much time.

The main question we should ask about any such movie is this: Is it true to the Bible? This is not the same as asking if it is precise and word for word in all it portrays, but whether it presents the Bible in a way that faithfully communicates the message and story of the Bible? My answer? Mostly.

The reason I say “mostly” instead of giving a straightforward “yes” is because there are a few factual errors. For example, when Abraham offers Isaac to the Lord, in the movie, the Lord provides lamb instead of ram. Also, the circumstances surrounding Moses fleeing Egypt are not entirely accurate. And Joshua refers to Jericho as standing between God’s people and the Promised Land (Jericho was in the Promised Land). Obviously, all of these are minor and do not contradict or diminish any core doctrinal truth. In fact, most of us have probably made mistakes like these when talking about the Bible, but we don’t see ourselves as promoting heresy. Neither should we judge The Bible so harshly.

Let me tell you some things I like about the miniseries so far:

1. Miracles are portrayed as miracles, not exaggerated natural events. When the Red Sea parts, it’s not just some shallow body of water that happened to succumb to prevailing winds during the dry season. God piled the water high both sides, and after the Israelites crossed on dry land, He released the sea to destroy the Egyptian army.

2. God is seen as the one true God, creator of all that exists and sovereign over all creation. He is the defender of His people, the hater of sin, and the keeper of all His promises.

3. Sin is seen for what it is–devastating and soul-destroying.

4. The Bible is portrayed as one consistent story about God instead of as a collection of disconnected stories. Viewers are given the opportunity to consider the grand narrative of Scripture from beginning to end, and this will help with understanding the Gospel better as Jesus is rightly seen as the fulfillment of prophecy and the hope of all mankind.

The bottom line? The Bible is not the Bible. However, it has piqued interest in the Bible, and the producers are trying to do it justice. While watching a 10 hour miniseries cannot replace reading the Bible, I do not believe any harm will come from watching it. In fact, I can see some potentially results. Perhaps Christians and non-Christians alike will have their interest in the Bible so aroused that they will desire to read it more consistently and more thoroughly. Perhaps in seeing the drama of Scripture portrayed so vividly, people will realize that the Bible is not some boring religious tome and will want to check it out for themselves. Moreover, if you have non- Christian friends watching it, you might have new opportunities for conversations about what you believe. And might I suggest giving them a Bible, offering to answer any questions, and inviting them to your own Bible Study and worship celebration?

So, enjoy The Bible. I am. And then pray for open doors to tell everyone you can about your great God who came to set His people free.

Desire for God

By Mike Miller

Someone recently sent me this question:

Pastor Mike, how do we get our desire back for God? I am a believer, but have just stepped away. I still attend church, but that is it. It’s like the only time I worship God or anything is when i am at church or occasionally in the car on the way to work or something. I do not pray like I should or read my Bible? Does God get disappointed at us when we walk away from Him? Also, not to contradict myself when I say I am a believer, but could it be that maybe I just haven’t completely surrendered my all to Him? I feel that I have accepted Christ and have had some changes in my life since doing so, but maybe just didn’t give Him everything. Does this mean that I am truly not saved?

The reality is that we all have times when our Christian walk is not as sweet as it should be or as it has been in the past. Those times are perfectly normal in the Christian life. We’re just not as close to Jesus as we should be, and this causes us not only sadness and anxiety, but also the questioning of our salvation. Believe it or not, I think this is good, because we should all take a hard look at our salvation from time to time. I fear for those who have walked an aisle in a church and prayed a prayer, yet are not truly saved, but they never examine their lives to test the validity of their salvation. 2 Corinthians 13:5 says, “Examine yourselves, to see whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves. Or do you not realize this about yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you?– unless indeed you fail to meet the test!” Nevertheless, when we are distant, we don’t want to stay there. When our desire has faded, we want it back. Let’s look at Scripture to see what to do.

Through the Apostle John, Jesus sent a letter to the church in Ephesus, and it is recorded in Revelation 2:1-7. He commended the church for some things, but He took exception to something: “You have abandoned the love you had at first” (verse 4). In other words, they were doing good things, but they had lost their love for Jesus. They had drifted away in their devotion and affections for Him. Therefore, in verse 5, Jesus told them what they needed to do.

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